In what time period do you live in? Do you look forward to the future or think about the past? What factors drive the time period you live in? Does it impact what you do today? Does it impact how you plan for tomorrow?
Lately, that seems to be a conversation I have had with people which makes prompted me to write a post about the subject.
Living in the past…
Don’t get me wrong, it is ok to think about the past. That is how we grow, change and adapt so we don’t make the same mistakes or we improve on what was successful. But we shouldn’t dwell on it. That promotes stagnation, indignation, frustration and depression.
There is a difference between thinking in the past and living in the past or desiring to go back to the past and relive it. Many people do it for comfort since it is predictable; they know what happened so there are no sudden surprises.
But you can’t change the past, however you can change the future. One must focus on living in the present and looking forward to the future and use the past as a reference point to measure how far you have gone or grown.
If you dwell in the past, you will crash in the future. It’s like driving a car. You are headed towards an accident if all you look at is your rear view window. What’s done is done, time to look ahead and move forward.
If you don’t, you may miss that EXIT SIGN TO SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS because you were staring at the rear view window as you passed it by.
A lot of people miss or don’t see the opportunity of what they have now due to living in the past. This is not healthy.
Some favorite quotes about letting go of the past…
“If people refuse to look at you in a new light and they can only see you for what you were, only see you for the mistakes you’ve made, if they don’t realize that you are not your mistakes, then they have to go.” – Steve Maraboli
The quote above is very strong and hard to do, like quitting smoking, but it is one way to relinquish what you are constantly struggling with. You need to learn to flush it away. You can’t continually stress over what others may think based on something you may have done wrong and you especially can’t think about how to make it better when their mind is made up. You can only move forward and let the chips fall where they may.
Here is another good one:
“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.” – Alexander Graham Bell
That door may be a new career opportunity or relationship or both!
This is especially true with relationships. Focusing on relationships that are over is an unhealthy way to live your life. Time heals all wounds but you have to let it heal, you can’t keep picking at the scab!
“Stop being a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your future.” – Robin Sharma
“Renew, release, let go. Yesterday’s gone. There’s nothing you can do to bring it back. You can’t “should’ve” done something. You can only DO something. Renew yourself. Release that attachment. Today is a new day!” – Steve Maraboli
Looking towards the future…
Here is something I have found myself doing over the years and that I know others do as well:
In my late 30’s I would look at a 20 something year old and say ‘wow, if I was your age I would seize this opportunity because you have your whole life ahead of you. Go for it!’
Then as I hit my 40’s I found myself saying the same thing to a 30 something year old. Now in my 50’s I still catch myself saying it but now it is for someone that is in their 40’s!
The point is this. What the future holds and when you should do it is all relative. This hit me really good when someone in the gym said the same thing to me yet they were in their 70’s! His comment was something like this ‘at your young age (57), I would take advantage of it because you have the whole world in front of you’!
Call that the light bulb going off in your head moment…
So the future does not stop at any age. It is not relative to age. The future is what you make it out to be regardless of age and especially regardless of your past. This includes career choices, relationships, and lifelong dreams. The list is endless.
Use the past as a map of where you have been but don’t live or dwell in it. Live your life in the present based on the future you want to head in.
Look ahead and around you, you don’t want to miss the Exit ramp of love, career and adventure. You do all this and I can assure you that you are headed to be…Fit Forlife!